Hey, this is Dan Savage and this is Savage Love Podcast number two.

Thanks for giving us another go.

I hope you enjoyed number one.

I hope you enjoyed number two.

If you want me to answer your question live, you can phone it in at 206, 201, 2720.

Now let's get to the questions of some other folks have recorded for me.

Yeah, hey, Dan.

Say my name is Steve.

I am 56 years old.

I'm a good-looking guy into fitness, don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs.

I'm gay.

I came out of closet five years ago, and the bottom line is I'm attracted to young guys.

He's got out of a relationship for a 20-year-old.

So 36-year difference.

And I'm always attracted to younger guys, a boy type guy, young guys,

uses, and I'm trying to kick this habit.

I don't think I'm crazy. I've always admired you because you tell it like it is and why am I attracted to the inner guys I don't know anybody tells me that I'm just opening myself up to get hurt I look foolish and I need to go with someone my own age where do I seek help and I And I'm serious, but if you can help me, I'd really appreciate it. All right, so you're a big gay cliche. You're the middle-aged gay guy who is, or late-middle-aged, I guess, who's only into twinks and only into boys. And your use of the word boy makes me a little uncomfortable. And I hope we're talking about 18-year-old plus boys, that gay community use of boy, where it's anyone between 18 and 35 who's relatively hairless, what you have to, you know, if that's what you're into and you can't really force a broadening of your tastes, you need to reimagine what your romantic life is going to

look like.

You know, in 10 years it's going to look like a lot of rent money for rent boys.

But right now, you just have to sort of accept the fact that you're going to be with a series

of younger guys who may be into you for reasons that, you know, make you a little uncomfortable,

like they're into you for money or status or they're into you because you that, you know, make you a little uncomfortable, like they're into you for money or status or they're into you because you're, you know, older and wiser, and you're going to be sort of a transitional figure for a lot of these guys sexually. You're probably not who they're going to be with forever. Maybe you can have, like, a couple of really great two or three-year relationships with guys in their early 20s who are into older guys.

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