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Hi, Dan.

I'm calling because I just started dating a guy that I really like,

and so far things have gone pretty well,

and there's just a bunch of different things that I really like about him.

But we ran into problems the first time we made out, and we were long distance.

So I saw him and we made out, and he was not very good at taking no for an answer.

And, you know, definitely was not a rapist, but that basically kept on asking me to go further or putting his hands where I told him not to and acting pissy and disappointed when I said no.

And kind of like, you know, I was being unreasonable.

So this has really made me not excited about him and also really sad because I had really liked him a lot.

So I talked to him about it and he was actually really receptive.

At first he kind of didn't really get what I was saying and didn't think he had done anything wrong.

But, you know, the more I explained it, the more he got it,

and he ended up apologizing and saying that he understood and that he wouldn't do it again.

So, but that has made me just nervous, and it's scary to me because I feel like the only way

I'm going to know if he'll repeat this

behavior is by making out with him again.

So I just, I guess I want to know what you think about men who are pishy and basically

trying to convince me to have sex with him, which just seems sort of manipulative

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