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Who's your Valentine?

My Valentine, inappropriately enough, the tech savvy at risk youth.

All of them.

I gave them all big boxes of chocolates, inappropriate, kisses on the mouth,

shampoo for the dreds because we're locked in a very tiny room. Me and the Tex-Saviat risk youth. And there's two of them with dreads.

Guys who would otherwise look good, look ridiculous. They look like toilet bowl cleaners,

like they should be sitting in a little stand next to your toilet with their feet and butt,

and you pick them up and you scrub the shit off the rim. Just saying, guys, you're my Valentine's,

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Hello, Dan.

On New Year's, I happen to have a brush with non-monogamy, I guess, a soft three-way, if you will. And this friend of mine, a female, gave me oral, and it felt really good. And my girlfriend knows the same for me me and even since then it's gotten better but

I wonder if there's a tactful way to kind of figure out whatever my friend was doing

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