Savage Love Episode 1021

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 6.4K Ratings

🗓️ 2 June 2026

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

A woman who really wants a long term partner has gotten a "tantric opportunity" she may not be able to refuse. Hours and hours of hot sex? But the dude isn't boyfriend material. Should take this once in a lifetime opportunity anyway? A woman's friend only dates women much younger than himself. He insists he's being respectful and mindful of power imbalance. But it still gives her the creeps- should it? On the Magnum, a man asks if hypnotism as a means to control someone sexually is a bunch of nonsense. Dan brings on science journalist Sadie Dingfelder to look into the matter. And, a man dated a woman, broke up, came out, and remains very good friends with his ex. She feels like his platonic but important partner. He had a boyfriend for a while, but the guy was a bit of a dullard and couldn't hold a candle intellectually to his female bestie. Can he find a partner who will accept his gal pal as a part of his emotional life? Record your question and send it here: Q@Savage.Love Or call 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Quince, high quality essential clothing, at radically low prices. Refresh your everyday with luxury you’ll actually use. Head to Quince.com/SAVAGE for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From throuples to tantric sex, orgies to orgasm control and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

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0:00.0	You're listening to the Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's Sex and Relationship Show for grownups.
0:05.1	If you're under 18, get out of here, young.
0:08.5	If you're stuck in a relationship quandary,
0:12.3	or if you're looking for sexual harmony,
0:17.9	well, there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.
0:26.5	Hey, in honor of Pride Month, there are two rainbow-striped wolves inside me, and they are having a heated argument.
0:33.4	They're howling at each other.
0:35.3	Not about the Patagonia lawsuit.
0:37.2	Girls, you are both pretty. No, they're howling at each other. Not about the Patagonia lawsuit. Girls, you are both pretty.
0:38.8	No, they're howling at each other.
0:41.2	About the lead singer of a band I hadn't heard of until last week.
0:45.3	Bear tooth.
0:46.3	According to something I just read on the internet is one of the world's most successful rock bands.
0:50.6	Now, rock, hard rock, is a genre that has fallen on hard times, not as prominent as it once was,
0:57.2	which may explain why, according to something else I just read on the internet,
1:01.0	Beartooth, despite being one of the world's most successful rock bands, can sell out shows
1:05.8	in mid-sized venues, but not stadiums, unlike Bad Bunny and Taylor Swift and BTS, all popbacks, synth, Latin, and
1:14.7	Korean, respectively. So Beartooths might love myself hit number one on the rock charts in
1:19.9	23, but I only found out about the band last week when it's a lead singer and founding member,
1:26.0	33-year-old Caleb Shomo, came out as a proudly gay man in a statement posted to his Instagram account.
1:33.0	So the Good Wolf, first he wants me to say that me not having heard of a band is no shade on that band.
1:38.2	I'm a hopelessly out-of-touch musical theater queen.
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