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Savage Lovecast

Savage Love Episode 1009

Savage Lovecast

Dan Savage

Relationships, Sexuality, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

4.66.4K Ratings

🗓️ 10 March 2026

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Summary

Naturally, on this sex and relationship podcast, many of you are thinking about the Epstein files. One caller used to be a dom/daddy for younger women who sought him out and enjoyed themselves. Still he feels guilty. And another caller is having their libido crash when they read the news. Meanwhile a straight man has discovered a bizarre and rare disorder: he goes limp when he has to put a condom on. Somebody make a documentary about this guy! On the Magnum, a trans woman is grappling with the anger she feels at cis and non-binary people. Dan brings on trans, queer comedian and writer Hayden Johnson, to offer advice and to commiserate. They talk about how being a trans woman forces you to confront misogyny, the jarring difference in how people treat you when you present as a man vs. a woman, and how fun it is to mess with people's heads onstage as a trans comic. And, a 34 year-old woman is leaving her abusive husband. She knows it's the right thing to do, but worries she won't get another shot at marriage and family. She asks for a pep talk from Dan Savage, and from YOU. Leave her an inspiring comment! Q@savage.love 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Mill, odorless, effortless, fully automated food recycler. Try Mill risk-free for 90 days and get $75 off at Mill.com/Savage and use code Savage at checkout. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

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0:00.0

Hey, this is Dan Savage. Thank you for listening to me, answer your sex and relationship questions.

0:04.6

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0:09.8

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0:15.8

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0:21.2

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0:42.3

If you're under 18, get out of here, young un.

0:46.0

If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony,

0:52.9

while there's nothing you can't have. If you're looking for sexual harmony,

1:03.8

while there's nothing you can't ask on the savage lovecasts.

1:06.7

They wouldn't let us ride the slut here in Seattle,

1:10.5

but people are being encouraged to ride the D in L.A.

1:12.5

Riding sluts, riding D's.

1:17.0

I am, of course, talking about public transit, kicking off this week's show with the tail of two transit systems and then two short items about two very different assholes.

1:23.2

All right.

1:23.6

So 20 years ago in Seattle, the South Lake Union trolley went into service or the South Lake Union tram. People weren't that excited about the tram itself. It connected a bunch of

1:32.2

new condos and office buildings in a formerly industrial area to downtown Seattle and connected

1:38.2

it only barely to downtown Seattle. But people were pretty excited to ride the slut, the South

1:43.4

Lake Union trolley. People made T-shirts that said, ride the slut, the South Lake Union trolley.

1:45.7

People made t-shirts that said, ride the slut and ran out to take their pictures riding

1:50.0

the slut in their ride-the-slet t-shirts.

1:52.9

But the prudes who run Seattle, they shut slut down.

1:57.3

It's not a trolley.

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