Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

I was having a conversation with my friend the other day who I frankly, well, what I said to her

was, I think that you're doing too much.

I think that you need a bit more, I think that you need to allow a bit more help in. You need to

recruit the people in your life to support you. She's going through some stuff right now with elderly

parents. And frankly, I know that she is in a position to do this, but I think that she should

also employ more paid help in her world so that she can allow herself

to do what's most meaningful and right to her at this present time while also allowing her

life and all the things to run smoothly.

Now, when this comes up, I know that we can feel a lot of resistance about allowing in

help, thinking that there is somehow virtue in our sacrifice. Okay? It's almost as if we think that there is

some type of ledger somewhere that is monitoring and keeping score of all the

things that we had to give up. Okay. The times we stayed late, the times we said no to temptation,

the time we didn't sleep in because we've got to get around to cleaning the oven, the time we carried everybody

else's burden, the time when, the time we showed up for others, even though we were tired,

think about it. There is not a tally, there is not a ledger, there is not an Excel spreadsheet

anywhere that is adding up your sacrifices for retroactive applause one day. Okay, drop that expectation because

it is not coming. And when I spoke to my friend about this, I mean, we know this logically,

obviously, but somewhere within us, we sometimes feel that smug feeling of, okay, don't

worry, right? Like, I won't make this about me or I'll suck this up. And it does feel as if there

should be a reward for that, right? There's no running list of our sacrifices and there is no

running, running gifts, right? There's no one running around with presents saying,

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