Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

I love the expression of keeping an inner scorecard.

Have you heard of this expression?

Keep an inner scorecard.

I've heard it float around over the years, but I believe it's Warren

Buffett who first spoke about this. And for him, it's a life principle that he lives by.

And what it means essentially, and we speak about this a lot in self-coaching society,

is that you measure yourself by your own standards, right?

Because everyone's scorecard's a little different, right? If you think about it, what people

value, what they deem as important, what they consider special or likable or good or right.

Everyone's scorecard is different. So it would be madness to live in the world

living by other people's scorecards because you can't please anybody and you certainly

will not please yourself if you are living out of alignment with what matters most to you.

So instead of perhaps asking yourself, you know, how do I look

compared to others or what will they think of me or is this the right thing to say? You ask better

questions. Is this what I value? Is this who I am? Does this feel good and right and true for me?

It's very, very easy to live with an outer scorecard and in fact most people do when you pay attention.

We care about appearances, status matters, money, things like applause, accolades, praise. Look, I get it, there's nothing

wrong with those things. They can be fun and interesting and celebratory and certainly cool and

light. Why not? But the inner scorecard is what lasts. This is what we talk about in self-coaching society, about regret-proofing your life, doing it your way like Frank Sinatra used to sing. It's really about your integrity, your character, living by your own values, placing time, attention, and energy on what is

important to you, even if nobody's watching, even if it's not impressive by anybody else's

standards. And when you live with this inner scorecard, increasingly I find that this happens also

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