S7E11: Uncomfortable Conversations with White People

Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Cultivating H.E.R. Space

Education, Self-improvement

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🗓️ 10 September 2020

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

Lady, what has your experience been with white people? Are you accustomed to being the only Black person in a space? Do you have very little interactions with white people? Most of us have experienced racism, microaggressions and other forms of racial trauma. Being Black in America can be exhausting despite how much joy you see. In the current racial climate some of the white people in our lives have been reaching out to engage us. In today’s episode Terri and Dom describe some of the uncomfortable conversations we may have with white people and how we can navigate those conversations with our best interest at the center.

Quote of the Day:
“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.”
-James Baldwin

Takeaways:
Tips for Having Uncomfortable Conversations with White People
1. Know your audience and context
2. Be open-minded
3. Think ahead regarding consequences of words and actions
4. Set ground rules or use safe words
5. Keep the focus of the conversation away from comforting the other person
6. Have a purpose or goal in mind
7. Use “I” statements
8. Lean into curiosity
9. Pour into yourself before and after the conversation

Rachel Cargle

TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom
Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
H.E.R Space Sanctuary

Resources
Melanin and Mental Health
Therapy for Black Girls
Psychology Today
Therapy for QPOC

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0:00.0	Hey Lady, it's Dr. Dom here.
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0:34.0	On this week's episode in Her Space.
0:37.0	If I'm having a conversation with a friend or someone that I feel close and connected to, then how I dive into that conversation
0:48.0	may be a little bit different, right?
0:51.1	So I know that if I'm going into a conversation with a friend, the consequences of if this conversation doesn't go well is different than the consequences of if the conversation
1:08.9	with my boss doesn't go well, right?
1:13.0	And so I may be more willing to take more risk
1:18.6	and be really and truly more open-minded in the conversation with my friend versus my boss.
1:28.6	Today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation, inspiration, or even a fresh perspective.
1:36.0	If you have any aha moments or if you feel comforted throughout the episode, Lady, please leave
1:41.2	us a review and tell us what we're doing right so we can stay on track.
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