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Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

S3E5: How To Become More Assertive (And Why It's Important)

Cultivating H.E.R. Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman

Cultivating H.E.R. Space

Education, Self-improvement

4.71.3K Ratings

🗓️ 26 July 2019

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

Assertiveness. When do you use your voice? How do you use your voice? What does it look like when you assert yourself? Where did you learn to use your voice? The answers to each of those questions gives you insight into how you express assertiveness. If you have listened to previous episodes on boundary setting and confidence then this week’s topic will add to your arsenal of being a woman living in authenticity. Terri and Dom will explore examples of assertiveness and also distinguish from assertiveness, aggressiveness, passiveness, and passive-aggressiveness. Asserting yourself may require risk but it will benefit you and everyone around you in the end. Be sure to scroll down to learn how to navigate situations that require assertiveness. Quote of the Day: "I think of the next girl who is going to come along who looks like me, and I hope, 'Maybe, just maybe, my voice will help her.'" -Serena Williams Helpful resources mentioned: Tips to improve assertiveness identify the behavior; the impact; your feelings and what you want changed use "I" statements speak loudly and clearly avoiding pauses and "ums" own what you need aim for positivity and collaboration https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a28209579/serena-williams-us-open-2018-essay/ From Psychology Today: "Assertiveness is a social skill that relies heavily on effective communication, while simultaneously respecting the thoughts and wishes of others. People who are assertive clearly and respectfully communicate their wants, needs, positions, and boundaries to others. There’s no question of where they stand, no matter what the topic. From a cognitive standpoint, assertive people experience fewer anxious thoughts, even when under stress. From a behavioral standpoint, assertive people are firm without being rude. They react to positive and negative emotions without becoming aggressive or resorting to passivity. Individuals who are high in assertiveness don't shy away from defending their points of view or goals, or from trying to influence others to see their side. They are also open to both compliments and constructive criticism. Assertiveness is often associated with higher self-esteem and confidence. People can improve their assertiveness through practical exercises and experience." https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/black-women-leaders-approved-for-assertiveness-in-the-workplace.html
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0:00.0

Hey Lady, it's Dr. Dom here.

0:03.0

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0:32.0

FM to get started. on this week's episode in

0:35.2

her space. By nature of our degrees and our profession logically we know how to do it, right?

0:45.0

So I can talk a good game because I know how to do it.

0:52.0

I can say to other people in this situation this is what I would do and this is what you

0:58.5

this is how you need to handle this girl let's get this you know I can use the language have the tone but sometimes for me in those

1:08.0

small moments I don't show up for myself.

1:17.8

Welcome to Her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting women like you.

1:20.5

We're your hosts. Dr. Dominique Bruzard, a college professor and psychologist, and Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker.

1:28.0

In a world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood,

1:33.4

please join us as we initiate authentic conversations

1:37.3

on everything from fibroids to fake friends

1:40.6

and create a safe space where black women can just be.

1:44.0

Our quote of the day comes from Serena Williams.

1:57.0

I think of the next girl who is going to come along who looks like me and I hope maybe just maybe my voice will help her. Let that sit for a moment

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