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In Dr. Stephanie Moulton's Sarkis book, Gaslighting, she writes,

When it comes to friendships with gaslighters, the word frenemy comes to mind.

In 2010, Frenomy was added to the Oxford English Dictionary, described as a person with whom one is friendly despite a fundamental dislike or

rivalry. Like all gaslighters, gaslighting friends feed off of human misery. They are emotional vampires.

You feel exhausted after spending time with them.

They want to know all about all of the terrible things that have happened to you in great detail.

Conversely, they pay little attention when you want to tell them about something good.

They have no interest in the things that are going right for others.

They see others' success as one-upping them.

You are their competition.

This is because gaslighters view the world as having limited resources.

They can't grasp the concept that being happy for people around them

could also lead to their own greater happiness and success. Gaslighters are terrible gossips.

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