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This season, I'll be referencing Dr. Stephanie Moulton Sarkis book, Gaslighting, a lot.

I have read this book at least three times, and it has not only been extremely beneficial in understanding this story,

but also opened my eyes to a gaslighter in my own life and gave me the confidence

and knowledge to know how to end said relationship. This book will be linked in the episode

notes and is also available on Audible. No one is paying me to endorse this book or anything like

that. I just simply believe it's amazing and can help a lot of people.

The term gaslight was coined by Patrick Hamilton in his 1938 play, Gaslight, and first made popular in the 1944 movie of the same name. In 2004, the term was added to the Oxford English

dictionary as follows, to manipulate a person by psychological

means into questioning his or her own sanity. Gaslighters have a number of characteristics

that are important to know. When enough of these qualities are present and persistent in a person,

chances are you're dealing with a gaslightider. They are masters of the conditional apology.

When someone says, I'm sorry you feel that way, that's not an apology, nor is it taking responsibility

for their behavior. This simply manipulates you into feeling seen by acknowledging your feelings.

But be sure, gas-liders will only apologize if they are trying to get something out of you.

They use triangulation and splitting.

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