S21E5: Is Your Independence Empowering Or Keeping You Single?

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5 • 877 Ratings

🗓️ 16 September 2025

⏱️ 64 minutes

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Summary

We're told to be independent but not too independent...so what's the line between what helps us preserve our autonomy versus what keeps us out of partnership? We're diving into this topic that's near and dear to our hearts as two people who have built our own lives, boundaries and identities...yet still want to open ourselves up fully to another human being. We're being brutally honest about the areas that we struggle with vs what feels more like natural integration, signs of healthy independence, and how to strive for the sweet spot of interdependence with a partner.

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0:00.0	I've been on a health kick lately with the wedding and then just realizing it was time to start eating better in general, which is why I love Washington Red raspberries.
0:09.5	They are clean, simple, and a seriously delicious way to add more nutrition to your day.
0:15.8	Whether you're trying to clean up your snacks or build better meals, They're American grown picked at peak ripeness and
0:22.3	frozen within hours to lock in nutrients like fiber, antioxidants, and vitamin C. And they have no
0:28.8	added sugar, just fruit as nature intended. Instead of my typical breakfast sandwich, I've been doing
0:34.8	a red raspberry smoothie. And it's been an excellent source of
0:38.2	fiber, because fun fact, raspberries are one of the highest fiber berries. Want to discover new ways to
0:44.6	use American frozen red raspberries and get more details on where you can grab a bag of these
0:49.9	delicious berries. Go to redraz.org. That's r-a-r-a-z-z-z.org. You'll find recipes,
0:59.3	health tips, retail locations, and everything you need to make frozen Washington red raspberries
1:05.2	a regular part of your routine. And don't forget, look for product of the U.S. on the bag.
1:10.7	Some of my favorite products
1:12.0	made with Washington Red raspberries are Costco Kirkland Signature 3Berry Blend, TrueFrew,
1:18.6	hyper-chilled chocolate-covered raspberries, milk, or dark, or Smuckers Raspberry Jam,
1:24.1	peanut butter, and raspberry uncrustables. Hi, I'm U.S.U. And I'm Julie Craftchick. We're active daters turned dating insiders.
1:32.6	Here to dive into everything, modern dating, and relationships.
1:36.3	Welcome to datable.
1:42.4	Hello, friends. Welcome back to another episode of Datable.
1:49.0	Now, have you ever been told that you should be independent and that you should be self-sufficient and live your best life?
1:57.1	But at the same time, allow space in your life force a partner. How do you balance the two?
2:05.2	Can you actually be too independent? It's a question I always have. It is a definite question,
2:10.5	because I think the question always is, like, is the independence empowering? And in a lot of ways,
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