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Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

S21E16: Inside A Man's Journey To Becoming Emotionally Available & Ready For A Relationship

Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick

Relationships, Sexuality, Science, Social Sciences, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.5877 Ratings

🗓️ 2 December 2025

⏱️ 90 minutes

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Summary

We're giving you an authentic, raw and rare male perspective on Dateable—that of a single British man in his 40s, who’s done the inner work to finally become emotionally available and ready for a committed relationship… after a long chapter of global thrill-seeking, temptation, hedonism and personal escape. Join us as we talk to Phil about his journey – how he realized he was hiding from intimacy and how he started to carve a path out. We discuss the balance needed in your lifestyle to be ready for a relationship, the ways his social life has changed and where he's meeting people now, and what he's done to confront some of the behaviors he knows are getting in his way (and continues to do as it's still an evolving process!)

If this resonates, feel free to reach out to Phil @philwilkinson811 (per his request!)

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Transcript

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With the holidays right around the corner, it's time for me to start planning all the festive meals and treats for the season.

0:06.9

Frozen Washington red raspberries are the ultimate holiday shortcut to flavor, as they are picked at peak ripeness and frozen within hours to lock in their bright, sweet tart taste.

0:17.8

I love raspberries in my desserts, and boy does this cran raspberry pecan

0:23.2

tart sound delicious. Grown by passionate farmers in Washington State, they're frozen with care

0:29.2

to ensure top quality and food safety, and it always feels good to support local American

0:34.6

farmers. And here's the best part. They're always in season. When you buy

0:39.4

American grown frozen raspberries, you're getting fresh off the field flavor all year long.

0:44.7

You can find them at Costco, Kroger, Meyer, and Winkgo Foods. Make sure to look for product in the U.S.

0:51.7

on the bag. Check out True Fruit, Mars, Hyper-chilled chocolate-covered raspberries, and Smucker's

0:57.8

raspberry jam.

0:58.9

Want to learn more details on where to find American frozen red raspberries plus

1:03.6

recipe ideas and cooking tips?

1:05.9

Head to redraz.org.

1:07.9

That's r-a-d-R-A-Z-Z.org. You'll find participating retailers is an inspiration for

1:15.2

every meal, plus info on how these berries go from farm to freezer with quality you can taste.

1:21.3

All right, fellow romantici lovers, I've been waiting to talk about this one because it

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completely took my weekend. The epic romantic fantasy finale, Dawn of Chaos and Fury by Melissa K. Rourke is finally here. And if you're

1:33.5

into anything book talk is raving about right now, you need this. This is the fourth and final book

1:38.9

in the legacy series, a dark romantasy packed with fay, dragons, shifters, vampires, witches, meddling gods, you name it.

1:46.3

And what I love about this world is that it's not your typical medieval fantasy backdrop.

1:51.2

Think high fantasy meets modern tech.

1:53.9

Magic everywhere.

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