The following podcast is a dear media production.

Welcome to Raising Good Humans. I'm Dr. Alisa Pressman and today is part one of a two-part

episode with Professor Thomas Curran who's a professor of psychology at the London School of

Economics. His expertise is in perfectionism and he just wrote a book called The Perfection

Embracing the Power of Good Enough. It's so brilliant and today we're talking about

parental expectations and perfectionism and the focus is the relationship between

caregivers, parents, and children. And then next week we're going to talk about

the outside world's influence on perfectionism and we're talking mostly about social media.

If you enjoy this episode and you feel like it, go ahead and give me a five-star rating,

maybe even write a review, and I'm excited to tell you that if you want to get exclusive content,

I am starting a subscription on Apple podcasts where I'm just talking to you. So the first season

is just foundations and discipline and as always DM me with questions, we back and follow

up on Instagram at Reason Good Humans Podcast. What are the myths, the big myths about perfectionism

that you've countered? There's loads of myths around perfection. The first one is the perfection

of the high standards. It's not high standards. It's a relational dream. It's a way of existing

in the world and it's a form of deficit thinking. It's so extreme, as I said, that we live

allows in the shadow of ashamed. So worrying about how much less than we appear to others,

this is what perfectionism is. It's not high standards. High standards are a part of perfection

of component, but they come from that sense of deficit and lack, and that's the important part.

It isn't the high standards that drives the perfectionism. It's the lack. So that's the first myth

and a thing is important because that unlocks a lot of other myths down the line. The second is

that perfectionism is necessary for success. Lots and lots of research has been done on this area

...