S2, Ep 3 Best Friend Therapy: Jealousy - Why do we feel jealous? How does it affect our relationships? What can we do about it?
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Emma Reed Turrell
4.8 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 1 August 2022
⏱️ 47 minutes
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Summary
Do you have a touch of the green-eyed monster?
Well, that might not be a bad thing. Because jealousy can show up to tell us when a relationship we value requires some maintenance - we jealously guard something because it matters to us.
Sometimes that relationship will be with a friend or loved one, but sometimes the relationship that needs our attention is the one we have with ourselves.
In this episode, Elizabeth and Emma share with brutal honesty the times in their lives they have felt jealous, and Emma challenges the dangerous idea that we should feel flattered or gracious when someone else is jealous of us.
Emma reveals her avoidant side and why she'd rather just play in a different sandpit, and Elizabeth reveals that she can get you whatever you need from the Dark Web. JK.
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Elizabeth's How to Fail episode with Alain de Botton can be heard here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-fail-with-elizabeth-day/id1407451189?i=1000452022015
Emma talks about the work of Freud and Bowlby in terms of attachment and object relations, you can read more about it here:
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/best-friend-therapy/id1614793299?i=1000556922612
You can listen to the BFT episodes of Shoulds and Oughts and Special Occasions here:
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/best-friend-therapy/id1614793299?i=1000556922612
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/best-friend-therapy/id1614793299?i=1000556922612
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Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp. To contact us, email contact@bestfriendtherapy.co.uk
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Social Media:
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Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell
Best Friend Therapy @best.friend.therapy
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to Best Friend Therapy. I'm Elizabeth Day, author and |
| 0:05.8 | podcaster and for over 20 years I've been best friends with a therapist. |
| 0:10.5 | That's me. Hello, I'm Emma Reed-Tarell and I'm a psychotherapist. In my private |
| 0:15.2 | practice I talked to clients about the challenges they face in daily life and |
| 0:18.5 | we work together in a non-judgmental supportive space to increase their |
| 0:22.0 | sense of well-being and as her BFF I get all the benefit of her expertise and |
| 0:27.0 | wisdom for free. Emma makes me feel better about life but also helps me to |
| 0:31.8 | understand why I act the way I do. Ah, thanks Liz. She's also one of the only |
| 0:37.2 | people allowed to call me Liz. We wanted to open the doors to our friendship and |
| 0:41.8 | throw a light on the therapy we all need in our everyday lives. Each week we |
| 0:46.5 | chat about what's on our minds to get deeper in our minds. Two best friends, one |
| 0:51.7 | therapist, no filter. That's Best Friend Therapy. Hello everyone, thank you so |
| 0:59.6 | much for tuning in to Best Friend Therapy and today I'd like to say Emma you're |
| 1:04.0 | looking very nice. I like that top. In fact I really want that top. In fact you |
| 1:10.1 | might say I'm jealous of that top. In fact actually looks a lot like your top so |
| 1:14.8 | actually that is quite weird that we have dressed the same today to record |
| 1:18.4 | this podcast. It's our uniform. We're both wearing like black |
| 1:22.7 | athleisure wear tops with zips that go down quite low so it looks like you can |
| 1:27.6 | either have a V top or a roll neck but that's not the theme of this day's |
| 1:31.4 | episode. Next week. Yes, we're talking about jealousy. We aren't. And luckily we've |
| 1:39.2 | got one extremely jealous person to speak on that. Now who is that person |
| 1:45.5 | Emma? You're right it's me. I'm someone who has had to cope with feeling very |
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