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Welcome to Raising Good Humans. I'm Dr. Alisa Pressman and this is the first episode of the

second season. I want to thank all of you who have been here with me and welcome any newcomers

to this community. I thought I would take this opportunity to give you some sense of how best

to take in all of these podcasts and frankly how to take in expert advice on parenting in general

from me or anybody else. What I mean to say is that if you don't have a plan for how to receive

this information, it can feel confusing, conflicted and it can make you feel really crappy as a parent.

So whenever you're listening to an expert, keep reminding yourself, you are the expert on your

child. I am the expert on the science, maybe translating the science and choosing the good

evidence to give you and I try to give you a practical approach as well and these are all very

useful things to have in your pocket and your toolkit. But only if you remind yourself to

never think that any so-called expert is more expert on your child than you are. So the ideal

scenario is that you use the experts that you feel are trustworthy and are aligned with what your

parenting beliefs are to help inspire your parenting, help support your parenting, help give you tools

but that you remain confident that you are the expert on your child. With that in mind,

here are a few things to take into account when you're listening to these episodes and I think

these also are good overall parenting north stars. The first is think about the experience you had

being parented because your child's experience being parented by you is absolutely influenced by

your experience and if you've come to terms with your experience being parented, even better.

Because then you're not bringing your baggage into the new relationship, you've come to terms with it,

you've decided what you're going to keep and what you're throwing out and you will give yourself

more compassion as a parent. So there are three parenting styles that are kind of looked at particularly

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