S16 Ep280: Love Is Forged, Not Found: Gabe & Rebekah Lyons on Marriage That Lasts

Heart of Dating

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Christianity, Relationships, Society & Culture, Religion & Spirituality

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🗓️ 22 October 2025

⏱️ 55 minutes

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Today we’re hanging out with Gabe and Rebekah Lyons as they get real about the ups and downs of 28 years of marriage, forging love through conflict, why the spark isn’t everything, and how healing comes through honesty and unity before and after you say “I do”! Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en Interested in advertising on this show? Learn more here! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/16V_c91F1iIYNZOVvrEinrB9h2dsZq-kZFqYYEDQ4A60/viewform?edit_requested=true . . . . . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	You don't want surprises after you're married.
0:01.9	Those things do need to surface before you get married.
0:22.4	And can, the relationship, handle it? And if it can't handle it before you get married, it's going to be a lot harder and it will likely continue into the marriage. See marriages that end up in divorce, you're like, they never fought. Or the kids are like, we didn't see our parents fight. Well, there was deep resentment there. But they had just learned they were both silent. We're not going to engage it.
0:23.4	We're not going to deal with it.
0:20.8	We're not going to engage it.
0:22.5	We're not going to deal with it.
0:23.5	We're not going to confess it, repent, heal.
0:26.0	We're just going to go harbor this.
0:27.6	There are things that have to be said that have probably never been said out loud to someone else.
0:32.1	And when you can do that and it's met with grace and empathy and the gospel, then there's something really beautiful
0:38.4	that's going to set the tone for your entire marriage. The beauty of marriage is to recognize
0:43.5	they're not going to ever be like you. You're going to be two different people with two different
0:47.1	preferences, ways of doing life, ways of thinking about things. And the beauty of marriage is learning
0:51.9	how to together embrace that there's difference,
0:55.6	respect the difference, learn to live with one another amongst the difference, and to appreciate
1:00.6	the difference.
1:18.2	If you've ever wondered why a relationship that started off amazing suddenly gets so hard,
1:20.3	then this episode is for you.
1:25.3	Also, if you are addicted to the sparks and butterflies, which I know some of y'all are,
1:27.7	you have to tune in today because we are talking all about it. Specifically, we're talking about how love is forged, not found. If you're wondering what I mean by that, you have to listen to today's episode. Okay, so we got Gabe and Rebecca lines in the house. What's up, guys? Hey, hey. Good to be here. Thank you guys. Thank you guys for coming. So usually I like to like brag and flex and there's a lot to brag and flex for you guys.
1:46.6	Instead, I'm just going to ask you, what is one thing you're most proud of in your life today? And that'll be your introduction. How's that? Great. Man, I'm proud. This will feel like obvious, but 28 years of marriage. I mean, for Rebecca and I, it's just been a
2:02.1	almost three decades of knowing each other and, you know, to stay married, to love and enjoy
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