S16 Ep275: The 7 Core Needs That Sabotage or Save Your Relationships with Mike Foster

Heart of Dating

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Christianity, Relationships, Society & Culture, Religion & Spirituality

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🗓️ 17 September 2025

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Today, Mike Foster joins Kait and JJ to unpack the seven primal questions driving our core needs, how childhood imprints impact our dating lives, and why knowing your own—and your partner’s—deepest questions can totally transform relationships! Take the 7 Primal Questions Assessment Here: https://www.primalquestion.com/assessment-page Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en Interested in advertising on this show? Learn more here! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/16V_c91F1iIYNZOVvrEinrB9h2dsZq-kZFqYYEDQ4A60/viewform?edit_requested=true . . . . . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	You do not want the fourth grade version of you running your adult life today.
0:08.9	It's just a bad strategy.
0:10.8	You know, I don't know, though, because my fourth grade self was pretty successful and really
0:15.0	awesome, actually. I got A plus plus pluses. You know, I was just kidding.
0:19.8	An unspoken expectation is an unfair expectation.
0:23.8	So if you have a need that you want your partner to meet, it is your responsibility to communicate
0:30.8	it.
0:31.5	Once you understand the need, you really understand everything about you.
0:36.1	You understand why you do what you do. It is the,
0:39.9	I would say the primal question is the thing underneath the thing that is driving everything. Yeah,
0:44.2	number one, I wouldn't start any romantic relationship with somebody not, if not, if I didn't know
0:49.5	their primal question. That's how, that's how important it is to know this piece of data.
1:05.1	Every single one of us is living with a driving question. Am I loved? Am I safe? Am I good enough? And when that question
1:14.7	doesn't get answered, we start to scramble to try to earn love, even without realizing it
1:21.4	sometimes. If this sounds like you, or maybe something you're familiar with, you are listening
1:26.2	to the right episode. We are in a
1:28.3	season called Relationship Goals. And today we have an expert with us and a good friend,
1:34.1	our dear friend, Mike Foster, who's going to be unpacking the seven primal questions
1:39.0	and helping you figure out how to heal your core needs so that you can completely change how you show
1:45.8	up in dating and how you connect with somebody that you're interested in. JJ, are you excited about this?
1:50.4	Yeah. So fun fact, this is a full circle moment. J.P. Yes. And Mike Foster were the two first
1:57.9	episodes I listened to of you and Harda Day. No way! I didn't realize that.
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