After all the ghosting, the breadcrumbing, the flaking – the one thing we don’t address is the trauma from it all. Join us as we chat with Janis Isaman about all the dating wounds we carry from years of being single and going on endless dates. We discuss why we're often expected to sweep this small t trauma under the rug, the anxiety that comes up in the early stages of dating, and how to not let these past setbacks get in the way of finding true love. Read Janis's writing on Elephant Journal (https://www.elephantjournal.com/profile/janis-isaman/) and follow her work at https://www.mybodycouture.com/ and @janisisamanauthor Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard Thank you to our partners for this episode: CloudPaper: Get your environmentally friendly toilet paper for 15% off your first order use the code DATEABLE at https://cloudpaper.co/ Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy