We're talking sex, no sex, arbitrary rules around sex, and shame around sex as we unpack the differences between straight and gay sexual "norms" with Matthew Beier. We discuss why heteronormative traditions are still so difficult to break out of, how the lack of "rules" have influenced gay sex culture, and how the fundamental differences have overarching similarities for all of us to keep evolving our views on sex. Follow us @dateablepodcast. Check out our website for more content, virtual live show dates, and merch. Join the Sounding Board at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/soundingboard Thank you to our partners for this episode: BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month of online therapy at betterhelp.com/dateable with the code DATEABLE Gobble: Get 6 meals for $36 plus free shipping visit gobble.com/dateable CloudPaper: Get your environmentally friendly toilet paper for 15% off your first order use the code DATEABLE at https://cloudpaper.co/ Cover art Photography Credit: Larry Wong #lwongphoto Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at frolic.media/podcasts WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Our Sponsors: * Avocado Green Mattress: Check out their mattress and furniture sale: https://avocadogreenmattress.com/DATEABLE * Get Rain of Shadows and Endings wherever books are sold or at Kensington Publishing https://www.kensingtonbooks.com * Quince: Get free shipping and 365 day returns at https://quince.com/dateable * Ruggable: Get 10% off your first order, sitewide, with promo code DATEABLE at https://ruggable.com Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy