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On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Ryan Holiday: Why You Need to Reparent Your 14-Year-Old Self & How to Overcome the Fear of Not Being Good Enough

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

iHeartPodcasts

Health & Fitness, Business, Mental Health

4.8 • 28.5K Ratings

🗓️ 16 September 2024

⏱️ 102 minutes

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Summary

What would you tell your 14-year-old self?

How do you quiet the “not good enough” voice?

Today, Jay welcomes Ryan Holiday, renowned philosopher, bestselling author, and host of The Daily Stoic. With over 10 million copies of his books sold globally, Ryan returns to the podcast to dive deep into the concepts of personal growth, parenting, and finding purpose in a success-driven world.

Ryan reflects on the journey of becoming a parent and discusses the difference between having kids and truly being a parent. He explains why intentional parenting is a radical shift from simply fulfilling biological or legal roles and explores the transformative impact of parenthood on personal and professional ambitions, emphasizing the importance of being prepared for the changes it brings.

Jay also opens up about his own thoughts on parenthood and the life shifts that accompany major decisions, offering a heartfelt glimpse into the conversations he’s had with his wife about the timing of having children. Throughout the conversation, both Jay and Ryan unpack the struggles of balancing a career with personal life, with Ryan drawing from Stoic philosophy to offer guidance on setting meaningful goals, aligning actions with values, and learning from life's obstacles.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to Embrace Parenthood as a Central Life Purpose

How to Set Goals Based on What’s in Your Control

How to Approach Parenting with Intention and Purpose

How to Learn from Life’s Obstacles and Failures

How to Align Your Career with Personal Values

How to Build Emotional Resilience through Parenthood

Whether through parenting, personal growth, or our professional pursuits, the key is to stay rooted in what truly matters—our values, intentions, and the legacy we leave behind.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 01:33 Are You Ready to Become a Parent?
  • 05:43 What Type of Goal Should We Set?
  • 10:54 Love What You’re Doing
  • 18:59 Stuck in Life
  • 22:06 Trust the Process
  • 26:04 Patience
  • 30:18 Process of Accumulating Experiences
  • 33:35 What Difference Are You Making?
  • 35:57 Raise a Reader
  • 40:14 What Are You Struggling With?
  • 45:00 General Parenting Tip
  • 52:56 Unconditional Parental Love
  • 58:50 Do What’s Important to You
  • 01:02:04 What is at Stake?
  • 01:06:03 Comparison Game
  • 01:09:36 Dad Guilt
  • 01:15:30 Fear as a Parent
  • 01:19:11 This Stops with Me

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0:00.0

The Black Effect presents Family Therapy, and I'm your host, Elliot Connie.

0:06.0

Jay is the woman in this dynamic who is currently co-parenting two young boys with her former partner David.

0:11.0

David, he is a leader.

0:13.2

He just don't want to leave me.

0:14.8

But how do you lead a woman?

0:16.2

How do you lead in a relationship?

0:18.0

Like, what's the blue part?

0:19.1

David, you just ask the most important question.

0:21.6

Listen to family therapy on the Black Effect Podcast Network.

0:25.5

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0:31.7

Imagine you ask two people the same seven questions. I'm Mini Driver and this was the idea I set out to explore in my podcast Mini Questions.

0:39.0

This year we bring a whole new group of guests to answer the same seven questions, including Courtney Cox,

0:45.9

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0:49.9

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0:54.4

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0:59.9

answers.

1:01.9

Hey everybody welcome to a cross generations where the voices of black women unite.

1:07.0

I'm your host, Tiffany Cross.

1:10.0

Join me and be a part of sisterhood, friendship, wisdom, and laughter.

1:14.4

We gather a seasoned elder, myself, as the middle generation,

1:17.6

and a vibrant young soul for engaging intergenerational conversations,

1:21.3

prepare to engage or hear perspectives that literally no one else has had.

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