Welcome to Marriage Day podcast. I'm Jimmy Evans. This is my wife Karen. We're so glad that you've joined us today. And this program, this podcast exists to help every couple thrive in marriage. We want you to know that you can succeed in marriage. You have a 100% chance of success. You just need the right information.

And we're talking on the program today about romance, rustproofing your marriage.

This is from the indestructible marriage series. We're talking about romance. This is one of the most important but least understood issues in marriage. And every couple, this is a daily need

for every couple, but you have to understand

how to do this and have to, how to meet each other's need for romance.

But before we get to the teaching, Karen, we've got a couple of questions from our listeners,

and this is one for you.

My wife and I have very different personalities.

She thinks that I need to change, but I'm not sure this is healthy.

How do you not lose your own personality in marriage?

Yeah.

Well, I think, first of all, of course, we're all different.

And you always like to say, you know, if we're the same, one of us is not necessary.

And so I think that with personalities, you just have to learn to accept and respect

each other. You know, I mean, there must have been something that she liked, you know, that she

married him in the first place. And, you know, you and I were so totally opposite when we got

married. And I remember, you know, the frustrations you and I both had with the differences that we had.

But I just remember crying out to God, you know, that God, I can't change him, but you can change me.

And so, you know, I think it's healthier to focus on our own selves and let God change within us what needs to be changed so that.

And then you'd be shocked at how much that helps the other person to be changed so that, and then you'd be shocked and how much

that helps the other person to be free from that tension and the expectation that I've got

to be a certain way or else, you know, and so I would just say, you know, pray and then ask

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