Hi, it's Sam here.

Welcome to Radio Headspace and to Thursday.

Recently at a gathering with my friends, I found myself venting about some of my husband's

habits to them.

I basically said he plays video games too much.

Not a big deal, but it was still a criticism, and I could tell that he was frustrated by

my comment.

In that moment I felt an immediate sting of regret.

And even though I could have let it go and hoped it would resolve itself, I knew the best

way to repair that rupture was to say I'm sorry, which I did later that day.

In this case, ruptures represent the everyday hurts that are caused by criticism, or things

said in moments of anger, sadness, or other difficult emotions.

And it's called a rupture because it temporarily interrupts the flow of love and connection

that we normally feel in these safe and nurturing relationships.

And these small ruptures can snowball into bigger resentments and ultimately distrust.

So today I want to talk about how we can make a habit of repairing small and large ruptures

in our relationships.

So before we get into how to repair our relationship, let's talk about what gets in the way of saying

sorry.

When we do something we regret, it's natural to feel shame and embarrassment.

This emotion stings because we care about the person we might have hurt.

We don't want to do it again.

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