Hello, I'm Greg Jenner. I'm the host of Your Dead to Me, where the best names in comedy and history

join me to learn about and laugh at the past. You are a traitor. And in the new series, we'll meet

Aristotle. I think he might have been a time traveller. Someone who's like almost a glitch.

We'll dive into the causes of the British Civil Wars in the 1600s. In England at this period,

there's people can't get on the housing ladder. This sounds familiar. And we'll discover the arts and crafts movement.

I love the clothes. I love the vibe. Yes, we're a comedy show that takes history seriously

and then laughs at it. You're dead to me. Listen first on BBC Sounds.

BBC Sounds, music, radio, podcasts. Hello and welcome to the series that hears from people whose lives have shifted in the blink of an eye.

For today's guest, though, it's not just one life, it's many.

And it's not the blink of an eye.

It's a decision made in a heart-stopping moment that led to drama, divorce and decades of change for two couples.

And it all started because Elektra Rhodes had come to London from Birmingham for a conference.

Good morning, Elektra.

Good morning, Sean.

Hello.

How are you?

I'm all right. Thank you.

Good. So this is 30 years ago.

It is. Take us back. I mean, you're very young now, obviously. But take us back to the young

Elektra. What was life like for you? I think ordinary and I was kind of optimistic sort and quite shy and quite self-sufficient.

I look back now and think I was probably on the edge of being a hermit who went home at the end of the day and was on their own and quiet.

And then during the day I was at work, which was great and I liked my job.

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