You thought you were going to have something that was going to last.

You thought you had someone that was willing to give their role and do that with you.

It turns out you didn't. When someone ends it with us, we go through so many different emotions.

But amongst the first emotions are panic, the terror of abandonment, the grief of having lost someone, but not lost someone to a death, lost someone who's still there, who still exists, but has decided that they don't want us, one of the most difficult, exquisite pains we have to experience in life.

And now instincts in that moment are to fight for this thing, to fight for the relationship that we want so badly.

But this urge to fight is a dangerous one.

Here's a concept I want you to take to heart.

It's not your job to fix what he broke.

Think about it. He broke something. He shattered something. He violated the relationship.

There are many different ways to violate a relationship, right? Imagine he cheated on you. You would see that as a fundamental violation of the

boundaries of the relationship. But so is this. Why don't we see someone breaking up with us, someone

disappearing as a violation in itself? It's a violation of a truth that we held, a truth that you and I were bigger than

any problem, that you and I were going to overcome, that you and I were going to do what so few

people do and actually last together. What's so sad is that during a breakup, so many women

fight for him to give them back the relationship they've lost.

But I want you to completely flip your mindset on this.

When he broke up with you, he gave up his power.

The relationship is no longer his to give.

In fact, if he wants it again, that's something he has to fight for.

That's something he has to earn for. That's something he has to earn.

A challenge he has to overcome.

And the only way that he's going to fight for you is if he realizes that he broke something.

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