There's no amount of attraction,

there's no amount of fun or excitement

that could make up for that trait not being there.

What's up everybody? Matthew Hussey here. Welcome back to the Love Life podcast. A fun, informative, insightful clip from one of our previous videos today.

I think you're going to love it. Check it out.

There's a scene from the movie Up in the Air that just always stuck with me where the older woman is talking to the woman in her early 20s.

And she says to her, what do you want in a guy?

And this young woman goes into a lengthy description of a guy who drives this kind of car, you know, this pickup truck.

And the only thing he loves more than me is his golden retriever.

And he's looks like this and he's got this education and he's, you know, like, she goes down this long list.

And then she says to the older woman, what, what do you want?

And she says, someone who's kind, a nice smile, someone, someone who's from a good family, she's like, you don't realize how important that is until later, but from a good family.

And she's like, well, you know, a little hair on his head, maybe, but even that isn't, you know,

even that isn't a deal breaker.

And she just, she goes down this short list of things that are important to her and, and the younger woman says Anna Kendrick's character, the younger woman looks at her and she's like, God, that is so depressing.

And the funny thing is that's the lens of this 20 something year old is that it's depressing.

But what she doesn't realize is that it's not at all depressing to the older woman, it's not depressing, it's that she's come to value very different things in a person, she's come to see that where it's at is not in any of that nonsense.

And her lens has evolved to be much, much wider in terms of the kinds of people that she's willing to see in life, right, when you, when you're that, when you're that person who has that list of things that you've convinced yourself are really important.

Most people are invisible to you, because all you see is this very narrow group of people that fit into this idea.

The moment you start realizing that how many different ways people can be fascinating, how many different ways people can be impressive, how many different stories there are that are pretty amazing.

That people have lived through, been through, come through struggles, you know, all of these things you start to just realize, wow, like there are, there are really interesting people everywhere.

There are, there are fascinating or impressive people everywhere and a lot of them have done things we haven't, they've learned things that we haven't.

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