And six months in, I realize, wow, I've been doing none of the things that make me feel attractive.

And now I'm relying solely on this person to make me feel attractive. Welcome back everybody to Love Life. We have a caller on the line today. I know you love when we have callers. I do too. It gets real, we get to give honest advice.

So, caller, are you there?

I am here.

Hello, what's your name?

My name is Tori.

Tori, how are you?

Good, and how are you, Matt?

I'm feeling really good.

Yeah, I feel confident that we're going to help you today and we're going to make a

difference in your life. Thank you. So when did you want to ask? I wanted to ask you. I've been dating

my boyfriend for 10 months now and I often struggle with how do I keep, you know, remain a chase

or keep the attraction alive. So, okay, when you say how do I keep, you know, remain a chase or keep the attraction alive?

So, okay, when you say, how do I keep it being a chase,

you don't really mean that you want to kind of have a kind of game playing mindset in the relationship,

do you, where he's constantly chasing you because you wouldn't want to be doing that the other way around.

I think what you're really asking is, how do I, like you said in the second part of your question, how do I maintain that attraction?

Right? That's the key thing. Because obviously it's nice in the beginning of a relationship when we have that little phase of feeling like we don't have someone and then the chasing part. It's very exciting, isn't it?

Yeah.

So the key question is this, and it's a very, very good one, Tori. I'm glad you're asking it because many people get into a relationship and assume that

the work is all done. The real key thing is this. If the chase, the part where we were trying to get

each other was really exciting and now we have each other, how do we continue that excitement now that we have each other?

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