It's not nice if you're a person on a dating app pretending to be single and then someone starts calling you.

Wow. And that and you're with your girlfriend. That's a very inconvenient thing to happen. Now we did have a voice note from Emily Peel not just telling us how wonderful we are

but posing a challenging question. So here is Emily Peel.

Hi Jams, it's Emily from Melbourne. I'm doing a voice memo because it's relevant to my question which is for Matt.

So a little while ago Matt suggested that we ladies have a phone call with someone we've

been chatting to on a dating site to get to know them a bit better.

And so I've suggested this to some guys, about 10 of them, and two of them have had a chat with

me and the rest of them have either ignored me or completely deleted me. I've now asked the guys I'm currently chatting with

you know what's the problem with a phone call or a video chat and they said oh well

that's very intense and so now I'm wondering what Matt's thoughts are about that feedback

and whether he would stick to his original advice

or reconsider.

Thank you.

Appreciate you all the best.

Now Stephen, I have some thoughts on this because I think this forced me to kind of really sit and re-evaluate.

I didn't want to just brush this off.

I wanted to really think about,

is there a point here that we might have to go back and revise some of that advice.

As a single man, what's your opinion on someone trying to get on a call before a date?

I think it says a lot about where we are as a society that we would rather

actually get ourselves out the door go to a date have drinks with someone we don't know a total stranger than hear their voice on the phone.

There's something very odd about that.

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