Your ex is their own person with their own life.

Wish them well and let them go

because their story is not relevant to you anymore. I like to think about this like a car rental.

Worrying about what an X is doing or how well an ex is doing is like

wanting to know how well a car is doing that we already gave back. A relationship that ends

is a rental. It was a rental. It wasn't ours. But when we act like it still is ours in some way, like it's still a part of our life, we get upset to learn that it's doing great without us.

I made a decision a few years ago that I was not going to make those kinds of comparisons

or have those kinds of resentments about how other people were doing, not just because

it's low frequency behavior, but we're not here to talk about what, you know,

righteously, what's high frequency versus low frequency thinking,

because the truth is we all sometimes fall into low frequency thinking.

It's hard not to, right? We're humans.

But one of the things that helped me was realizing that

even when I've been in a relationship before, my value never came from that person.

My value only ever comes from me. And when I'm no longer with a person, I think their life is their life. It has nothing to do with mine. If I was somehow

deriving my worth from the life that they had or from who they were, then I was placing my value

in something outside of me. And that is a losing game. I heard Tony Robbins

recently talking about Warren Buffett and how Warren Buffett said that the greatest investment

you can make is in yourself because it was it is the one that will pay dividends

forever and I think about that in our love lives in our work lives too you know I have a

company and I'm really proud of that company but make mistake, I do not see that company as my value.

I see it as something that I have built that I'm proud of. It's valuable. It has value, but it's not my

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