This is what matters and when I find someone who has these things

Plus I have chemistry with them. That's gonna be worth giving a real shot

Welcome to the Love Live podcast it's me Matthew Hussie enjoy this clip and

thank you for being here.

I've been following the YouTube channel for years and get so much from the content and authenticity thanks for doing what y'all do.

I had a question for the podcast and wanted to know your thoughts. I'm currently a college student in Texas and for the past few years I have found myself stuck on the idea of the one.

I enjoy dating and meeting new people but even if I like them a lot I always find myself wondering if there is someone out in the world

perfect for me and waiting. I know that this soulmate-esque concept isn't very realistic or pragmatic

but it sticks with me anyway and I feel that it sometimes keeps me from being vulnerable and forming connections with people I could be happy with.

I don't want to have a mindset that prevents opportunities and chances in my life. I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Well this is interesting isn't it because I you know I was thinking this earlier today I was thinking there is a difference between to me at least

it feels like there's a linguistic difference between the one and soulmate

because the one it says one there's just one person out there soulmate to me seems to be someone you have found with whom you have a deeper connection than anyone that you've experienced before

and there isn't it doesn't have to have this feeling of there's only one soulmate but when you find your soulmate it's someone who you connect with on the most extraordinary level

and you don't want to let go for that reason because it feels like it transcends mere connection and attraction.

It feels like you're with someone who truly gets you truly sees you and to an extent understands how to manage you.

You know they say about soulmates as well that you can have multiple soulmates in your life and during your life because obviously you can have soulmates in the form of friendships as well as relationships

and soulmates I read once are kind of more people that enter your life and you connect with on that deeper level you're talking about but they kind of shape your life and change the direction and the course of it through that connection

sometimes that connection lasts a lifetime sometimes it lasts a short period but soulmates can be sort of just multiple people throughout your life.

I like that. Which I like yeah. I think it lowers the stakes a bit Rachel I think the problem is when your college age there is this sort of feeling of why I definitely don't want to I don't want to cash in my chips now because I just don't know yet if there might be something better

and of course you might be right at 20 years old or 21 you know there will almost certainly be people that you have a kind you haven't experienced yet.

You will of course learn about your likes and dislikes over time in relationships and that will help to shape what you value and it might be that in order to have a true sense of what you want you have to shop around a little bit I mean James and what is that what's that house buying calculation

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