If it means something, we'll just continue in an organic and elegant way.

If we feel it's cost us something, we'll go forward in an anxious way.

What do we do after we have sex with someone that we want more with?

Sex is one of those strange things that changes the dynamic, doesn't it?

It can make us feel awkward afterwards, it can make us feel afraid.

For some people, it makes them feel like they've given something up and they now have a reason to be fearful

because by having sex with someone, I can now feel used, I can now feel in some way taken advantage of

or I can just not like myself for having done it if this situation doesn't turn into anything more.

I will now regret this and all of the complications and anxieties around having sex with someone

can create a very counterproductive energy after we've done it.

And that's a shame because when we have sex with someone and we want something to happen afterwards,

there's a certain mindset and a certain intention and approach that actually makes it much more likely

that something positive will come of it.

Here's the starting point after sex.

We have to communicate through our words, through our actions, through our energy

that sex is something that means something to us.

Now don't get me wrong, sex doesn't have to mean something to everybody who has it,

but for the person who wants a relationship, for the person who is being intentional about who

they have sex with, there is a way to convey that it means something to you in a beautiful, high value way.

Now remember, in dating, we are always communicating whether we are someone to be taken seriously

or someone to be taken lightly.

So when we sleep with somebody, how do we communicate in an elegant way that we are somebody to be taken seriously?

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