If you feel someone investing, you give more value.

But what you don't do is give all of your value to someone who's not respecting it.

Hey everyone, it's Matthew, fun quick episode today.

This is me live coaching someone on the four stages of what it really takes to create

deep attraction beyond just looks and visual chemistry.

You know, it's easier to establish a physical connection with someone.

Do you have advice on how someone can deepen a relationship past a physical connection?

Well, the physical connection relates to, I suppose, chemistry.

But chemistry isn't the same as deep attraction.

And there in my programs, I teach an attraction formula that has four parts that create deep attraction.

The first part is chemistry, which is the part you're talking about.

The excitement, that physical connection, that animal attraction.

The other three parts are perceived value, perceived challenge and connection.

Perceived value is about someone's perception of your value.

Now we all have intrinsic value, but perceived value is super important.

If someone doesn't perceive us to have value, they're not hiring us for their company.

They're not wanting to be with us for a relationship.

So we need ways of creating perceived value.

And we can talk about this, but there are things you can do on a first date that create perceived value.

Then there's perceived challenge, which is not giving all of your value up front.

Just because you can cook a Michelin-star meal,

it doesn't mean that you do it for anybody who comes to your house.

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