Complaints are passive. Standards and boundaries, that's where all the results are. That's where the action is.

05. Harry Potter

I found, I don't know about you, but most people that I've ever known are a combination

of good and bad.

The problem is when we encounter someone where the dynamic between us and them is really

bad, where it produces a kind of toxic result.

And I'm going to give you four things today that will help you break free of a dynamic

like this.

And in the process, massively build your confidence and develop a better life and better relationships.

Number one, listen to your resentment, but be impatient with your complaining.

The resentment is powerful.

The resentment is telling you something feels wrong.

This giving that I'm doing, something about it doesn't feel right.

It feels like there is a complete asymmetry in what we're bringing to this relationship.

Think about it.

When we give to a charity, we don't feel resentful afterwards, do we?

Because we feel it was just generosity.

It was just giving.

It was doing something good.

So then why in this situation does the giving lead to resentment?

Because the giving has become a compulsion.

So that resentment is something that we need to listen to, but the complaining is something

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