He didn't really text for nine days and then nine days later sent a text saying,

hey, sorry, not playing games, just really busy right now.

Welcome back to another mini episode. Have you ever had someone who doesn't text enough in between dates?

Or have you dated someone who has some great qualities that isn't meeting your needs?

In this clip, I explain three key principles that get someone to meet your standards

and how you can communicate these standards. Enjoy.

I was recently on Australian TV via Zoom and there was a woman that her story was essentially

that she'd been on three dates with a guy. On the second date, she brought up the fact that

he didn't seem to banter with her much between dates. Now, she brought this up because she said,

this is really important to me. I know I love being able to banter with someone and when someone

doesn't give me much of that, it's like I'm not having something that I know is a big thing for me.

So she mentioned it to him. She'd said it didn't really change after that. Not only that, but after

the third date, he didn't really text for nine days and then nine days later sent a text saying,

hey, sorry, not playing games, just really busy right now. At that point, she said to me, Matthew,

what do I do? Is this a sign that he really doesn't like me? Is it just an excuse or is it real?

And I should keep pursuing this person. Here are three principles I'm going to start you on. And if

you got pen and paper right now, I want you to write these down. Number one, temper your enthusiasm.

So often we create this ideal picture of someone in the beginning and we never update it.

If you learn new information, he's not very good at answering with you between dates and that's

important to you. He doesn't message me for days on end and when he does, he doesn't ask me on

another date. He just apologizes for not being around. Update your perception of this situation and

this person or at the very least your perception of how right this person is for you. And that brings

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