When we begin to heal, we don't want to wake up to a life with a whole bunch of problems created by our reaction to our pain when it was at its worst. Oh, rejection has a lot in common with heartbreak.

Rejection is the... has a lot in common with heartbreak.

Rejection is the crushing of an ego, our identity, and it can come from many different things in our life.

It might come from the end of a relationship that wasn't our choice. It might come from being

terminated from a job. It might come because we're an artist and we created something and

poured ourselves into that thing and then didn't get the reaction we wanted.

Maybe you're someone who aspires to make YouTube videos or make content online and

you put out that piece of content that you're really proud of that you thought was going to be your way to launch yourself

and then you got comments that made you feel really rejected and not seen.

Maybe you went on a dating app and somebody ghosted you that you were talking to.

Or maybe you put out your opinion in a big way and someone rejected that opinion and that felt like a much deeper rejection.

There are so many different ways we get rejected in life,

but when we truly feel the pain of a rejection,

at our core it can feel like a fracturing of our confidence of what we believe we're worth, of who we think we are in this life,

because at the end of rejection through the catastrophizing that our minds do we

arrive at this terrible destination of I am worthless I want to talk to you about two crucial phases in your

rejection and in the life cycle of the emotions you feel when you get rejected and how you can

use them wisely.

The first phase, deep unbearable pain. Now this is a phase where it feels like you can't get anything done, where it feels like other parts of your life

are slipping because you can't focus, you can't get it together. It's a phase where you're

prone to acting out because you're in heightened states of emotion so you're liable to say the wrong

thing, to do the wrong thing, to make erratic, irrational decisions, burn relationships, burn bridges.

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