But even if two people want commitment,

do they have the same vision for what commitment actually is?

Do you have the same vision for what loyalty is?

Or for what freedom looks like. Why isn't love enough when it comes to finding a long-term relationship?

Well in my new book Love Life I talk about how compatibility is an essential ingredient of a long-term relationship,

and many of us love someone that we do not have compatibility with.

I wanted to talk about what compatibility actually looks like by going into seven key areas of compatibility.

And as I go through each of these areas, I want you to think to yourself,

are me and this person compatible in these ways or am I just in love with them?

Okay let's talk about the seven areas of compatibility.

Number one, are your goals compatible?

In other words, do you want the same things as this person?

Do they want the same things as you?

Do you want marriage, and they also want marriage in their future? Do you want kids and they also want kids in their future? Do you see yourself living where you live now in the city that you live now and they also see themselves

living in that city. Wanting the same things is highly underrated when it comes to the dating process.

So many of us focus on attraction,

how great we feel in someone's company,

but we don't actually focus on the fact

that someone is telling us that they want very different things than we do.

And if that's the case, there is a real danger that over time this person is going to make us incredibly unhappy.

Number two, the timing of our goals.

In other words, if we want the same things, do we want the same things on the same timeline?

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