You know, how many people don't think it's their job on a first date to show up and

give someone really warm energy in the first five minutes?

How many people think it's someone else's job to come along and impress them?

What's up everybody? Matthew Hussey here. Welcome back to the Love Life podcast.

A fun, informative, insightful clip from one of our previous videos today. I think you're

going to love it. Check it out.

When people talk about they struggled to be vulnerable, I was trying to think what

that means because we don't really mean when you are being vulnerable. You don't mean

early on, you want to reveal every pertinent fear and phobia and worry and insecurity you

have to someone. What is it you want to reveal at the beginning or when you're dating someone?

Is it just that you think you are putting on a pose and you want to drop the pose with someone?

I guess for some people, they find it hard to ever drop the pose and that's why they're always

being the witty one, the cutting sarcastic one, that sort of thing. Do you think it's like people

just don't want to lose control? Yes, yes, they don't want to lose control. By the way,

that can go in two directions. It can be by never revealing anything about yourself or you get

that person who is self-deprecating in a really brash way where they always voice their insecurities

and they always talk about every part of themselves and whatever and it's in a way it's

its own defense mechanism, isn't it? I'm going to tell you everything about me and if you don't

like me for me, then screw you. This is me and I think that is also a sort of, God, it's a really

aggressive form of vulnerability where you're preempting any way that you could be rejected by them,

by either rejecting yourself first or wearing it really brashly. If you can't handle me,

then that's on you. I'm going to just be me and I'm going to tell you everything about me and

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