We underestimate how many different things have gone into making us who we are and the special cocktail that that makes us we are our own blend.

Hey everyone, it's Matthew Hussey with the Love Life podcast. I wanted to share this important idea with you today. I think you're really going to love it. So check it out and let me know what you think.

I don't feel that enough people embrace being a bit weird. I think there are forces in society that are always trying to get you to conform to anything that's a bit out of the box, a bit strange about you.

You do things a little differently. You don't really subscribe to that social custom. You're kind of made to feel either ashamed or like, oh, that's too weird. You shouldn't do that. You should just be very do something conventionally the way everyone else does it.

And I feel like it's sort of I feel like people need to be nudged to be more weird. What do you think of that?

I think everyone is weird already. I think the problem is we don't express it. I think it's not that people need to be nudged to be weird. It's that people need to be nudged to be vulnerable with their weirdness because they already are.

Everyone's got their thing. Everyone's got like those little things they do when they're on their own or the things they think no one else does or the things that they're a little quirky passions things they geek out on.

I just think that we we're not very good at being vulnerable enough to show them to other people, but I do think that that's where like those are the little things that often people fall in love with is our our little weird things.

You know a lot of the frustration people have or you know the self-torturing it's like they're just not being courageous enough to embrace their unusual idiosyncrasies or talk about them in public or put them out on their content when they like if they put stuff on social media they feel they have to conform right there's just all these like subtle forces trying to sand off your edges and make you be like oh I better just do stuff like everyone else does it.

Because I'll be weird otherwise and it's always feels like the unique people are more brave in their weirdness.

I just think that's your part of your unique value proposition is the fact that you are different from other people in certain ways.

You're a unique blend of traits a unique blend of interests a unique you know people.

I think we sometimes overstate how special and unique everybody is from each other right we're all seven billion people on the earth.

There's a lot of similar people but we underestimate how many different things have gone into making us who we are and what and the special cocktail

that that makes us we are our own blend and whether it's in dating or in business representing fully the aromas of your unique blend are very important.

Because that's otherwise you are the same how many personal trainers are there online.

How many how many coaches are there online how many you know I mean you name it your profession there's a million of you online.

What makes you different I often think it's interesting when people talk to me about like Matt you know I have many different passions which one should I go for I'm like well firstly whatever it is you go for whatever thing you decide on to do with your time.

Bring your other passions into that that's the whole game isn't it is figuring out what your you know Tim Ferris was all you know originally it was all about figuring out what it looks like for you to live a lifestyle you want and then once you figured that out don't try and keep doubling up from that point create that lifestyle and then enjoy it.

And I think that it's the same as true of happiness is figure out what happiness actually means to you get very self aware about it.

What does happiness mean to me and now let me put the blinkers on and and get out of this mindset of constantly comparing my happiness to somebody else's and feeling strange that I don't seem to need that same thing that somebody else does or that chasing that thing doesn't fulfill me.

It's very very important yeah yeah and that's where you have to like divert right you have to get out of copying people or thinking they want that car so I want that car are they want to spend money on this so I must want to spend money on this whatever.

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