(Rewind): "Bad Texter" or Just Not That Into You?

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 27 June 2025

⏱️ 14 minutes

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Summary

Few things can match the heady exhilaration of dating someone and building momentum through regular texting and a sense of closeness.

But what about when the texting on their end is . . . kind of slow and intermittent . . . where there are big gaps in your text exchanges that leave you feeling unsure as to where, exactly, you stand with that person?

Feeling this way might even lead you to start analyzing their relationship with their phone the next time you’re with them, looking for clues as to whether their sporadic phone usage is consistent in their life or reserved just for you.

At some point, they might’ve even shared a generic line with you like, “I’m so rubbish with my phone,” or “I’m really bad at replying to people!” But is this really true?

In this week’s episode, I not only answer these questions, but I dig into a really common mistake people make in this area.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	You are a terrible texter and let them respond, well, I just don't really like texting.
0:05.0	Okay, well then pick up the phone and call me.
0:07.0	I want to hear from you. I miss your voice.
0:09.0	You don't have to be me, Matthew Hussey.
0:35.7	Enjoy this classic clip from our archives. And if you want to let me know what
0:39.5	you think or how this podcast is helping you, don't forget to leave me a review on iTunes under
0:44.5	the Love Life podcast. Enjoy.
0:50.8	Do you find yourself in the early stages of dating someone right now and getting increasingly
0:56.2	frustrated or even anxious that they're not texting you or calling you as much as you want?
1:04.8	And you find yourself wondering, is this person just bad at texting or are they really just not that into me,
1:12.4	in which case I am going to get hurt here?
1:15.7	This is tricky,
1:17.2	because early on in dating,
1:19.4	we don't feel or even have a right
1:23.8	to tell someone that they should text us more. If we've only just met someone on an app or even
1:32.3	we've only been on a date with them and they're texting us less than we would like, it's hard to say,
1:39.3	hey, I want you to reach out more because that person might be like, hey, I just met you and
1:46.1	you're not such a big part of my life yet.
1:49.6	And that's true.
1:51.9	At that point, someone doesn't know us that well.
1:55.7	We've not become a priority to someone.
1:58.1	They have other things going on in their life, I hope. And therefore,
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