302: “I’m nearly 40 and feel rushed to find love…help!”

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 25 June 2025

⏱️ 63 minutes

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Summary

Do you feel like time is running out to find love? Whether you’re worried about starting a family, comparing yourself to friends who are coupled up, or just feeling urgent pressure to “catch up” in your dating life, this episode is for you.

Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey explore how to handle dating confidently when the stakes feel high, and how to avoid letting fear and anxiety sabotage your decisions. If you’ve ever felt behind—unsure whether to stay hopeful or make a bold change—this episode will give you the tools to find love and ease the pressure others try to put on you.

In this episode we cover:

Why the fear of “running out of time” is so common in dating today.
How to create urgency without falling into panic mode.
The illusion of progress: How “distraction relationships” can quietly steal years of your life.
Real stats on women having children after 35.
How to stop comparing your timeline to everyone else’s.
Reframing societal pressure and internal anxiety.
Dating intentionally vs. dating reactively.
How to bring up having kids in early dating conversations.
The importance of a backup plan—and how it can actually help your love life.

Links:

– Try Matthew AI for free: AskMH.com
– Join the Love Life Club with exclusive courses and live events: JoinLoveLife.com
– Get your ticket to the Matthew Hussey Retreat: MHretreat.com
– Watch the free masterclass: Casual to Committed: GetCommitment.com
– Send us your stories or questions: [email protected]

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0:00.0	What people will do a lot of the time is have relationships that distract them from that anxiety.
0:06.0	But the relationship that they have to distract them from the anxiety
0:10.0	is a relationship that over time actually compounds the anxiety.
0:19.0	Welcome back to Love Life everybody. We're excited to be here. We have a big episode today,
0:24.7	full of really, really important wisdom. If you are someone right now who is dating, but feeling the
0:32.0	pressure of the clock, someone who feels like they're running out of time. Maybe you really, really want a relationship and
0:39.3	you're afraid that you're never going to find it. You're afraid that you're going to be the last
0:42.3	one left on the shelf as all of your friends pair off. Maybe they already have and you feel like
0:46.5	you are the only one left. Maybe you want kids and you feel like you're running out of time to have
0:50.9	a family. There's all sorts of pressures that get put on us,
0:55.3	both externally and internally, that can make us frightened and panicky when it comes to
1:01.3	our love lives. And this episode is the ultimate antidote to that. We talk about how to put these
1:08.3	fears aside, how to date from a place of urgency but not from a place of
1:13.2	panic, how you can create immediate pressure valves that can take away the anxiety in your
1:20.4	love life when you're looking for love and allow you to actually enjoy the process again
1:25.6	instead of feeling like you're behind. Stay tuned for all of that.
1:29.3	I'm so excited for this one. I know it's going to make so many of you feel better if right
1:33.9	now you're struggling with the anxiety of time running out. And of course, if you are one of our
1:39.1	live loves, members of our Love Life coaching program, I just did a live coach check in on the 23rd. The recording of
1:46.9	that is inside your members app. On July the 21st, Audrey is going to be doing a session on how to
1:54.1	own yourself in early dating, how to uphold your standards, be the most confident version of yourself, and really be
2:02.9	as attractive as you can possibly be when you're first in those crucial stages with someone.
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