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Hey, it's Matthew.

I wanted to share this powerful clip with you today about the behaviors that we engage

in, that can subtly damage our relationship if we're not careful and how to recover quickly

if you've done any of these things.

Take it out.

Tension and conflict are an inevitable part of any relationship.

It might be a moment when he said he would text you at the end of a night out after being

with his friends and he didn't.

It might be the moment where he interacts with someone in a way that makes you feel jealous.

Or maybe he was blasé about something that was really important to you.

Or forgot something, a promise that he'd made to you.

Tension in these moments is inevitable.

It damaged to the relationship is not.

You see, it doesn't necessarily matter what you argue about, but it does matter how you

argue about it.

And most of us have some kind of reactions that we do when we're feeling scared and hurt

that destroy instead of develop the relationship.

I want you to take a moment to be really honest with yourself and think about what yours

are, what's your pattern.

I'll name a few and I want you to see which of these you relate to.

Number one, we go silent.

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