(Matt Monday): When You Should STOP GIVING SO MUCH to a Relationship
Love Life with Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey
4.8 • 2.9K Ratings
🗓️ 19 December 2022
⏱️ 6 minutes
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Summary
OK, picture this . . .
I’m in my local coffee shop, minding my own business—my business in this case is ordering an oat milk flat white (just in case we ever go to coffee and you want to know what my order is)—and I get talking to a woman who tells me she’s mad at me.
She knows who I am, she’s a fan, she even said my program worked for her, and yet she told me she was mad at me.
In this episode, I tell the full story . . .
You’re going to want to listen to the full story, because it highlights how so many people get hurt because they follow 95% of my advice, but ignore one of the most crucial things I say.
Think of it this way: you can have all the right ingredients to bake a cake, but if you forget to add baking powder, the cake isn’t going to rise. In this video, you’re going to learn what the baking powder of dating is. Without it, your relationship will not rise, which explains what happened to this woman I met in the coffee shop.
Check it out, and don’t forget to leave me a comment when you get there.
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| 0:00.0 | Mutual investment and I've been saying this for years now |
| 0:03.4 | You don't invest in someone based on how much you like them you invest in them based on how much they invest in you |
| 0:09.5 | So I was in a coffee shop the other day and someone comes over and says Matthew at my table is a huge fan of yours |
| 0:36.1 | She's got your programs where you please come over and say hi. So I come over to their table |
| 0:41.4 | I say hi and this person says you know, thank you so much and I got your attraction to commitment program and it absolutely |
| 0:50.4 | Works what you do works. She said but if I'm honest, I'm actually a little mad at you |
| 0:55.9 | And I said why are you mad? |
| 0:57.9 | She said because I feel like I spent so much time |
| 1:02.0 | Trying to bring my best trying to be my most attractive self to this person |
| 1:08.4 | That I feel like I kind of lost myself and just ended up giving too much to the relationship |
| 1:17.5 | When I heard that at first I was confused |
| 1:20.9 | Because I spend so much of this program that she was referring to saying things like this |
| 1:27.1 | Remaining a challenge is about maintaining the other important parts of your life |
| 1:36.3 | And I want you to think about what those things are those things that make you you |
| 1:43.1 | They're very very important |
| 1:45.5 | Because when someone meets you that's the shit that they get attracted to in the first place is the rounded |
| 1:53.7 | Multidimensional person that you are |
| 1:59.4 | But I understand there is a kind of selective hearing that happens when we really like someone when we're really into someone |
| 2:07.6 | Our mind goes to how do I keep them? How do I impress them? |
| 2:11.7 | How do I be my most attractive self to this person? |
| 2:14.6 | And of course, I do tell people that in my programs |
| 2:17.2 | Here's how to bring your best to the table and I will always stand by that by the way |
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