I'm Dr Becky and this is good inside.

All right, it's January, it's a new year.

It is that time a lot of us think about resolutions. And before we jump in, I want to share a little

reframe that I've been thinking about around resolutions. Most of us, definitely me, end the year in December, feeling overwhelmed,

feeling like there's so many things we wish we did differently,

feeling like we didn't get it right. And then we enter January and we have the hope and

the optimism and kind of the blank slate of a new year. But then you know what we do to

ourselves? We do resolutions and we do them in a way that we go right back to feeling the way we did in December.

Overwhelmed, less than, not enough. We set goals for ourselves that frankly are unrealistic. Not unrealistic because we're not capable. Unrealistic because they're based in some idea of perfection rather than in an idea a reality.

So maybe we're going through a tough stage with our kids.

They are being really rude.

There's a lot of disrespect.

We've been yelling.

We say, I'm not going to yell for the month of January.

Well, I don't know about you,

but I can't not yell for the month of January.

We say, I'm going to start out every day,

spending 30 minutes with my kid without my phone.

Well, you know what?

It might really help our kid to spend five minutes with them in the morning,

without our phone twice a week.

I'm not talking about lowering the bar.

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