RERUN - Let the Dance Be Messy with Developmental Psychologist Dr. Aliza Pressman
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Cameron Oaks Rogers
4.7 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 17 December 2025
⏱️ 67 minutes
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Summary
In this episode (originally aired on 7/12/23), I sit down with Dr. Aliza Pressman, developmental psychologist, co-founder of the Mount Sinai Parenting Center and the Seedlings Group, professor, and host of the Raising Good Humans podcast. We discuss how Dr. Aliza came to developmental psychology, how her work influences her parenting and vice versa, and her thoughts on parenting “best practices” versus what is actually realistic. She shares the “orchid and dandelion” theory about children, her top four pieces of advice for first-time parents, and the value of process over outcome. Finally, we discuss growth mindsets versus fixed mindsets in children, how to start potty training with your child, and what she finds both difficult and great about parenting teenagers right now.
Key Takeaway / Points:
What drew Dr. Aliza to developmental psychology
On how her work shifted after becoming a parent
On “best practices” for parenting vs. what is actually realistic
How children can be “dandelions” or ”orchids”
Dr. Aliza’s top four pieces of advice for first-time parents
On pivoting away from achievement-oriented praise and perfectionism
The value of process over outcome
On growth mindsets vs. fixed mindsets
On not projecting your interests as a parent onto your child
Dr. Aliza’s advice for starting potty training
What Dr. Aliza finds difficult and great about parenting teenagers
Follow Dr. Aliza Pressman:
Podcast: Raising Good Humans
Newsletter: dralizapressman.substack.com
Instagram: @raisinggoodhumanspodcast
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Instagram: @cameronoaksrogers and @conversations_with_cam
Substack: Fill Your Cup
Website: cameronoaksrogers.com
TikTok: @cameronoaksrogers and @conversations_with_cam
Youtube: Cameron Rogers
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello, my favorite people, and happy last episode of 2025. I don't know if I ever, like, set a precedent for what we were doing at the end of the year. So I don't even know if you will know that plans are changing. This is kind of like being a bride at a wedding and something happening. And what I say all the time is like, you're the only one that's going to know you, your partner, your planners, maybe your parents because like no one else is aware. |
| 0:23.9 | Maybe that is what's happening for you? |
| 0:25.5 | And you're like, what are you even talking about? |
| 0:27.4 | And that's fine. |
| 0:28.5 | But we had planned on doing rerun episodes through the end of the year. |
| 0:33.0 | So for the next two weeks as well. |
| 0:34.8 | And I guess the first episode would be that first week of 2026. |
| 0:39.6 | And I'm drowning. |
| 0:41.9 | Quite literally feel like I'm drowning. |
| 0:44.8 | And I pulled the plug on that because, I mean, we'll get into this in the first episode |
| 0:50.9 | of 20206. |
| 0:51.7 | One of the many reasons why I wanted to bring the show in-house |
| 0:54.6 | and to leave my network was to have more control over everything. And this is a perfect example of that. |
| 1:01.5 | I think that the juice is not worth the squeeze there. Like the return on investment from a time |
| 1:10.0 | perspective and energy perspective, a work |
| 1:12.1 | perspective, to release a rerun episode like the day before Christmas and the day before |
| 1:17.7 | maybe it's New Year's Eve. I don't even know. It just is not worth it for us. I think that |
| 1:24.6 | every mom I have talked to and everyone, but especially every mom over text and DM, |
| 1:30.7 | is like this December and every December maybe, I just feel like I'm behind the eight ball on |
| 1:38.8 | everything in my life and that I'm playing catch up. And I know I've talked about this on |
| 1:42.3 | social and I know it's like exhausting when I talk about the same thing over and over and over again. And I get it. But our kids have just like not slept through the night in 10 plus days as I record this. And last night was actually a better night. It was just the first week up was 4.30, which like, fine. I will start my day at 4.30. |
| 2:01.8 | I don't care. Like that. Just give me that. But a few nights over this span has been like, |
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