Rerelease: Veronica & The Jealous Controlling Abuser | Domestic Violence

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

Abuse Survivor Network

Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture, Relationships

4.8 • 740 Ratings

🗓️ 12 September 2025

⏱️ 79 minutes

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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Veronica shares her tumultuous journey of surviving a coercive relationship that began in her teens and extended into her college years. From the first blush of teenage love to the terrifying descent into verbal abuse and sexual coercion, Veronica's story is an eye-opening account of the devastating effects of coercive control. Veronica found herself targeted, isolated, and trapped in a relationship that was marred with gaslighting, put-downs, jealousy, possessiveness, misogyny, and physical intimidation. It's a story of low self-esteem, trust, sexual coercion, sexual assault, physical abuse, intimidation, the need for outside validation, sowing the seeds of doubt, gaslighting, coercive control, eroding the sense of self, self harm, eating disorders, negative self talk, self gaslighting, shame, fawning caretaking, self sabotage, intimidation, threats fear, hyper vigilance, suicidal ideation, jealousy, possessiveness, word salad, self-blame, putdowns, rage, rules, modifying behaviour, and survival instincts. *** CONTENT WARNING - We discuss sexual coercion, sexual assault, suicidal ideation, self harm, and physical abuse. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠ or send us an email at [email protected] PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bitch is a Bad Word | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Veronica,
0:06.6	and Veronica was in a controlling relationship with a jealous, raging abuser.
0:11.1	It's a story of gaslighting, put downs, sexual coercion, intimidation, shame, and the healing process.
0:37.0	Music shame and the healing process. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today, we have Veronica. How are you?
0:47.4	I'm good. Thank you. Well, thank you for being here. And if you want to be a guest like Veronica is today, please do go to our
0:54.7	website at Narcissistapocalypse.com. Top of the page, there's a button that says guest form. When you click on that button, it takes you to our guest form page. And there you can read all of our instructions and either send us an email at Narcissist Apocalypse at gmail.com or fill out our guest form and press the submit button and please do send it in the format that we asked for. And there is a content
1:14.7	warning. email.com or fill out our guest form and press the submit button and please do send it in the
1:11.2	format that we ask for. And there is a content warning for this episode as we do discuss
1:16.8	sexual assault in this episode, sexual coercion as well. We discuss physical abuse and suicidal
1:22.6	ideation. So that is our content warning for this episode.
1:30.5	And today you're going to hear Veronica's story.
1:33.3	And Veronica met her abuser while in high school.
1:36.8	And I think this episode, her story is important to tell.
1:44.0	So to help people who are younger to maybe realize what might be going on at the time to reach out and get help.
1:47.1	So a really big thank you to Veronica for being here with us today. And now I'm just going to get out of my way and your way. Veronica,
1:53.3	the floor is now yours. Thank you. Thank you for giving me this opportunity to share.
2:02.8	I wanted to share about a relationship that I was in, and it was about 20 years ago. So I've been out of it for a long time, but it had a
2:08.5	really long-term impact on me. It took me a really long time to get over and kind of come to terms
2:14.3	with. So this was a relationship that started when I was a teenager and
2:19.7	continued for about four years through the end of high school and then most of college. So I'll
2:25.8	start by talking about kind of my background before the relationship started. As a kid, I was really,
2:32.8	really shy and I struggled a lot to like know how to relate to other kids. I had a hard time making friends. I always felt kind of like a social outcast. You know, my family, we weren't the typical family for the neighborhood. Our politics were different from the other families. We didn't go to the same church. My dad was an
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