Jimmy & The Raging Abuser | Domestic Violence & Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

Abuse Survivor Network

Society & Culture, Relationships, True Crime, Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 740 Ratings

🗓️ 8 September 2025

⏱️ 83 minutes

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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks to Jimmy about his marriage to a raging abuser. Jimmy grew up in a restrictive society, and due to his sexual orientation, he became a reliable community member to survive. When he arrived in the United States, Jimmy began a relationship with his future abuser and felt seen like he had never felt seen before. Unfortunately, Jimmy became the victim of rage, financial control, put-downs, sexual coercion, and physical abuse. It's a story of fear, people pleasing, survival, control, trauma, sexuality, lgbtq issues, physical abuse, sexual abuse, sexual coercion, financial control, family dynamics, coping mechanisms, gaslighting, post separation abuse, hoovering, excuses, anxiety, and addiction. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse and sexual coercion/abuse. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠ or send us an email at [email protected] PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bitch is a Bad Word | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Jimmy,
0:06.2	and Jimmy was in a relationship with a raging abuser. It's a story of sexuality, gaslighting,
0:14.6	financial control, sexual coercion, low blows, and post-separation abuse.
0:49.2	Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today we have Jimmy. How are you?
0:55.9	I'm good. Thank you. Well, thank you for being here. And if you want to be a guest like Jimmy is today,
1:02.4	please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com and click on the guest form button at the top of the page.
1:07.4	There you can read all of our instructions and please read them all and either send us an email at Narcissist Apocalypse at gmail.com or fill out our guest form and press the
1:11.8	submit button and please do send it in the format that we ask for. And we do have a content
1:17.4	warning for this episode as we do discuss physical abuse, sexual coercion, sexual abuse in
1:21.6	this story. So that is a content warning for today. And today you're going to hear Jimmy's story. And Jimmy was in a
1:29.4	same-sex relationship with a raging abuser who became physical. And his abuser was always promising
1:35.1	to change, but he never did. And I know Jimmy will validate many of you out there. So thank you
1:40.9	for being here today, Jimmy. And I'm going to get out of my way and your way.
1:45.2	Jimmy, the floor is now yours.
1:49.5	I'm originally from the Caribbean, and I identify as a gay man.
1:55.0	I've carried that part of me quietly for socio-political reasons.
2:02.5	As a child, I wasn't the stereotypical macho boy.
2:06.5	I was quiet, reserved and often teased for not fitting into that mold.
2:12.9	I learned early on to shrink myself, to be subservient, to avoid conflict by keeping the peace.
2:21.8	And I realized that that experience made me empathetic and observant, but it also primed me to
2:28.7	accept things that I shouldn't have in my relationships.
2:40.0	Growing up, I knew who my father was, but we never really had a real relationship. I think that absence shaped me more than I realized at a time.
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