Rerelease: The Big 3 Lies of a Narcissistic Abuser

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

Abuse Survivor Network

Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture, Relationships

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🗓️ 28 March 2025

⏱️ 33 minutes

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Join us on this eye-opening discussion on Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A as we dissect the fabric of lies that often underpin abusive relationships. In the first part of our conversation, we uncover the three major untruths that abusers project onto their victims: victims are responsible for the abuser's happiness, victims are responsible for the abuser's anger, and victims are responsible for fixing the relationship. We explore how these manipulative falsehoods can lead to self-abandonment, self-doubt, and the false illusion of happiness. In the latter half of our episode, we shift focus to the lies victims convince themselves of to justify staying in an abusive relationship. From the illusion of a brighter future to the fear that the kids will suffer if they leave, we shed light on the insidious manipulation tactics employed by abusers. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of these complex dynamics, the importance of recognizing abusive behaviors, and the critical role of challenging these lies in the path to recovery. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at [email protected] To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, we discussed the three big lies that abusers put onto victims,
0:07.5	and the top eight lies a victim survivor convinces themselves of into staying. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, everyone.
0:35.4	I am Brandon Chadwick.
0:37.3	And today we're going to discuss the big three lies that
0:39.7	abusers put onto victims and the top eight lies that a victim survivor convinces themselves of
0:46.0	into staying. But before we get to that, if you want to be a guest on our survivor story episodes,
0:51.1	please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com. At top of the page,
0:55.1	there's a button that says guest form. When you click on that button, it takes you to our guest
0:58.7	form page. There you can read all of our instructions and either send us an email at Narcissist
1:02.7	Apocalypse.g.m. Or fill out our guest form and press the submit button. And please do
1:07.6	send it in the format that we ask for. So today, you know, right off the bat here, we're going to first discuss the big three
1:15.4	lies that abusers put onto victims.
1:18.8	And a narcissistic abuser wants your life to revolve around them.
1:24.3	You've experienced it yourself.
1:26.2	You've heard so many stories on our survivor stories about this.
1:30.3	And, you know, everything has to revolve around them, whether they consciously know it or not.
1:36.0	They always want you thinking about them.
1:38.3	So when you think of the different types of abuse and tactics, you know, no matter what,
1:43.4	it will always eventually be focused thinking
1:46.2	about them, even when they are not around as well, because, you know, you're trying to avoid
1:52.3	rages or blowups, and there's a self-abandonment of yourself kind of going on here, and your
2:00.2	own needs are not being met. So we talk a lot about
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