Rerelease: Jill & The Enmeshed Patriarchal Abuser | Domestic Violence & Narcissist Abuse

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

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Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture, Relationships

4.8 • 740 Ratings

🗓️ 25 July 2025

⏱️ 78 minutes

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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks to Jill, whose husband had the reputation of being the sweetest guy in the world. Every one of their mutual colleagues vouched for him. He was good-looking, intelligent, charismatic, and came from a good family. However, everything changed once they were behind closed doors. It's a story of sexual coercion, physically intimidation, gaslighting, addiction, toxic in-laws, protecting children, infidelity, family systems, blame shifting, rage, fear, shame, and much more. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses Sexual Coercion, Physical Intimidation, & Animal Abuse . *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠click here⁠ or send us an email at [email protected] PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bitch is a Bad Word | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Jill,
0:06.2	and Jill was married to a patriarchal abuser.
0:09.5	It's a story of being vouched for, everyone.
0:38.8	I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today, we have Jill.
0:46.8	How are you?
0:48.7	I'm good.
0:49.7	How are you?
0:50.5	I'm doing well, and if you want to be a guest like Jill is today, please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com. Top of the page, there's a button that says guest form. When you click on that button, it takes you to our guest form page. There, please do read all of our instructions and either send us an email at Narcissist Apocalypse at gmail.com or fill out a guest form and press the submit button.
1:11.3	And please do send it in the format that we ask for. And today we are going to hear Jill's
1:17.0	story. And there's a trigger warning for this episode. We discussed sexual coercion,
1:21.7	extreme physical intimidation. And there's also a brief mention of animal abuse in this
1:26.9	story. So a trigger warning for all of that.
1:29.3	So Jill's story is one where the influence of other people becomes a big reason of why she's
1:34.1	involved in the mixed messaging early on. And it's also an interesting story when it comes to
1:39.4	the in-laws in this story and their influence on her abusive husband and the passing down of a lot of patriarchal
1:46.6	values as being quote unquote a normal as I guess the best way to put it so with that now all being
1:54.3	said I'm going to get out of my way and your way Jill the floor is now yours. Okay, yeah. So my childhood, I was born in the 70s. My parents were
2:07.9	high school, sweethearts. They graduated high school and moved in together, and they both came from,
2:13.5	you know, 50s households with alcoholism. And so they did their best. They were, of course,
2:19.6	a hot mess, as 18-year-olds will be when they get married, you know. But they loved us,
2:26.2	and they cried their best. And some wacky things happened. And I wouldn't say it was great, but I felt like I could kind of cling to my sanity.
2:39.7	My favorite show was Sesame Street and so I remember just thinking like these grownups
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