Lara & The Invalidating Narcissist | Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

Abuse Survivor Network

Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture, Relationships

4.8 • 740 Ratings

🗓️ 28 July 2025

⏱️ 84 minutes

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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Lara shares the story of her abusive relationship at sea. Lara met her abuser while working on a cruise ship, where she felt seen and chosen by him. Unfortunately, Lara was being mirrored, and the supportive boyfriend quickly became invalidating and manipulative. It's a story of being chosen, mirroring, future faking, invalidation, flying monkeys, hoovering, sexual humiliation, love bombing, manipulation disguised as transparency, self esteem, gaslighting, intermittent reinforcement, guilt trips, triangulation, rage, and playing the victim. Plus, we have a bonus Q&A episode with Ashley Badgley from Survivors.org. We discuss sexual coercion and the importance of survivor voices. *** CONTENT WARNING - We discuss Sexual Coercion and Sexual Humiliation in this episode. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or send us an email at [email protected] PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bitch is a Bad Word | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Lara,
0:07.1	and Laura was in a relationship with a manipulative narcissist.
0:10.5	It's a story of being chosen, mirroring, future faking, invalidation, flying monkeys, and and Hoovering. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone. I am Brandon Chadwick and with me today we have
0:45.8	Lara. How are you? I'm good, thanks. How are you? I'm doing well. Thank you for asking and thank you for
0:53.6	being here. And if you want to be a guest
0:55.7	like Laura is today, please do go to our website at Narcissistapocalypse.com and click on the guest
1:01.5	form button at the top of the page. There you can read all of our instructions and please read them all.
1:07.5	And either send us an email at Narcissistapocalypse at gmail.com or fill out our
1:12.3	guest form and press the submit button and please do send it in the format that we ask for.
1:17.3	And we do have a content warning for this episode as we do discuss sexual control and
1:21.4	humiliation in this episode. So that is your content warning for today. And today you're going
1:26.1	to hear two things as we've attached a Q&A to the end of Lara's story.
1:30.7	And Lara's story took place over a short period of time.
1:33.9	And we know a lot of you out there deal with relationships that are actually quite short.
1:39.7	But like with many of you, so much took place in this time when it came to abuse tactics. And I think
1:46.1	you'll feel validated listening to all of these tactics. And our Q&A is with Ashley Badgley
1:52.0	from Survivors.org. And we mainly discuss sexual coercion in that Q&A episode. So stay tuned for
1:58.0	that once Laura's story is over. And a big thank you to Laura for being
2:02.4	here with us today. And I'm going to get out of my way and your way. Laura, the floor is now yours.
2:11.1	Okay, so I'm just going to start by offering an image, something that for me really captures what I've been through.
2:21.3	I know that for some victims of narcissistic abuse, they felt amazing about before the
2:28.4	relationship, they felt confidence, strong, clear-headed and still got pulled into something toxic. But that was not my story.
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