Rerelease: Dakota & The Hero Playing Abuser | Domestic Violence & Narcissist Abuse

Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

Abuse Survivor Network

Self-improvement, Education, Society & Culture, Relationships

4.8 • 740 Ratings

🗓️ 5 September 2025

⏱️ 86 minutes

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In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Dakota shares her story of dating a hero playing abuser. After years of battling alcohol addiction, Dakota was finally sober. She was living in a women's home, going to meetings, and taking long bus rides to see her beautiful child. Then one day, the abuser who pretended to be her hero, showed up to her meeting, swept her off her feet, and almost took her life. It's a story of guilt reverse psychology, minimization, invalidation, isolation, addiction, blame shifting, ptsd, shame, self esteem, sowing the seeds of doubt, coercive control, gaslighting, escape plans, and much more. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode has extremely graphic descriptions of physical abuse. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠click here⁠ or send us an email at [email protected] PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bitch is a Bad Word | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Dakota, and Dakota was isolated by a physically abusive narcissistic hero.
0:11.7	It's a story of addiction, being good enough, coercive control, guilt, reverse psychology, and escaping with your life.
0:45.7	Welcome. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone.
0:53.3	I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today, we have Dakota.
1:00.0	How are you? I'm doing well. Thank you for having me. Well, thank you for being here with us today. And if you want to be a guest on our show like Dakota is today, please do go to our
1:06.2	website at Narcissistapocalypse.com. Top of the page, there's a button that says guest form.
1:11.1	When you click on that button, it takes you to our guest form page.
1:14.0	Please read all of the instructions and either send us an email at Narcissist Apocalypse
1:18.0	at gmail.com or fill out our guest form, press the submit button, and please do send us
1:23.2	everything in the format that we ask for on that page.
1:31.0	And today, we're going to hear Dakota's story. Dakota was someone who was an addict and then found her way into an abusive relationship.
1:41.0	And there's a lot kind of going on, this dynamic. It's an interesting dynamic because
1:46.5	you're addicted to, in this case, drinking and then you also get addicted to a human being. There's
1:53.9	an addiction that is formed there. So it's a really interesting episode. This episode has a lot of
1:58.9	physical abuse talk, so a big, big, big trigger warning for everyone.
2:03.3	You know, this episode is not for the faint of heart.
2:06.6	There is some graphic descriptions of physical abuse eventually in this story.
2:13.1	And it's a scary story, and Dakota had to really escape for her life.
2:18.8	Her partner became a very dangerous, dangerous person.
2:22.1	So a big trigger warning right there.
2:24.5	This is going to be out for October 31st, the last day of domestic violence awareness month.
2:31.8	And, you know, spread awareness all you can about what is going on for the court
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